Save the Date Faux Pas

Wedding save the dates have been around for a while now, and couples can definitely find articles about best practices and common mistakes.  (Like these articles here).

But I still see people showing up to my website / articles / blog from google searches that make it clear that couples are sometimes haphazard with their save the dates.

I mean searches that are being run by *guests*, not the couples!

For example  "If the save the date includes a guest but the wedding invitation does not -- what to do"

Or "Received save the date but not invitation".

It's people trying to figure out what to do after receiving confusing information from the couple.

Sometimes couples get over excited and send out save the dates to everyone, as if it were an announcement, and then later realize that they can't invite all of those people.  That is the couple's mistake.  But you don't know whether they are avoiding having to tell you, or your invitation got lost in the mail.  (That does actually happen, you know).

Sometimes the couple gets incorrect information about including & guest on the save the date.  The couple should include that on invitations, if it is an option for the guest, but they shouldn't include that on a save the date.  It's too early to decide that!  So that also is the couple's mistake.  Either they realized that they can't let you invite a guest, or they forget to include the option with your invitation.

So what do you, the guest, do about a situation like this.  Well, sorry to say, there is no good option;  Either you ignore the situation and don't attend (or don't bring that guest), or you have to put the couple on the spot by asking what their plans are.